It seems anger and lusts go hand in hand. We long for something or someone, and when we don’t get it we become angry and lash out. Self control is what all of us need but we all seem to have our own understanding of how to obtain it.

Some have moved into caves or monasteries in an attempt to be apart from all that tempts them. I suppose the reasoning goes like this. If I am having trouble with lust for women maybe I can go where there aren’t any women so I won’t be tempted anymore. Others think if women would simply cover themselves men won’t be able to see their skin or shape and lust will come to an end. Some even take this as far as to cover even their heads and faces but still it doesn’t work. In fact imagination takes over and the lust within may even become stronger.

Buddhists try to remove desire all together thinking that’s the solution. Of course if that were even possible we would be something other than human; because desire is part of what it means to be human. If we are successful in killing off desire for things deemed bad for us we are going to cut ourselves off from the ability to desire the good too.

There’s only one possible answer to this dilemma. God promises to give us a new heart and put his Spirit in us. It is only through the miracle of rebirth that we can gain the needed self-control. Even then what we call “self”-control is really God control. Self-control is the fruit of the Holy Spirit and can’t be worked up or learned by sheer will power on our own. It is only a result of letting the Spirit of God have control of our lives and giving him the job of changing our desires. Even still we may have pulls or cravings for things we know aren’t good but that is where the miracle takes place. God provides the way of escape but we still have to take it. We by faith have to take what he provides us or else we go down again in lust and anger.

You may ask “How does this work out in the practical day to day experiences.” I would say, “That’s a great question!” Obviously we each have more than our share of opportunities to be tempted into sin so in a way it is by trial and error. The condemnation provided by the enemy can eventually serve as motivation to seek God once we are sufficiently wore down with our own self effort. Ultimately it is learning to look to Christ when in need of deliverance. He is our keeper. We read it over and over in the scriptures he is called our shepherd, overseer of our souls, Lord, master, and teacher and so on. Each of these titles imply he is responsible for us and our job is to let him.

Finally let me say, there is a secret way to victory and it may sound strange at first. The world will say, “Try harder”, as if more self effort is the answer. The Bible tells us the opposite. It says we are powerless and in need of someone to keep us. The Apostle Paul learned the secret when he prayed to God to remove his thorn in the flesh. God’s response to him was “My grace is sufficient. My power is made perfect in weakness.” There you have it. The secret is discovering we are powerless and in need of God every second of the day to be our protector, guide and the one real power within to overcome each and every challenge we face.

“Now unto him that is able to keep you from failing, and to present you faultless before the presence of his glory with exceeding joy, to the only wise God our savior, be glory and majesty, dominion and power, both now and ever. Amen.” (Jude 24-25 KJV)

Written by Louie



  1. This is about the most sensible thing I have read on the matter. I found it by entering “lust and anger on Google. Thank you for your words.

      1. This blog is exactly what I am facing. I pray and pray, the lies keep coming back to me. Just overwhelming feelings out of no where. I worry I’m going mental or something. Anything to help?

      2. Well, Jonathan I think your’e on the right track because you recognize them as lies. Feelings are a very real thing but they do come and go so we are called to walk in the Spirit who will tell us only the truth.

        In Romans 7 we read where the Apostle Paul struggled with coveting but did finally come to see the fight wasn’t his so he looked to Jesus Christ for the victory. In 2 Corinthians 12 He came to see that his weakness and inability to overcome the “thorn in his flesh” was actually a good thing because it taught him God’s glory is revealed through our human weaknesses. He said, “Most gladly therefore will I rather glory in my infirmities, that the power of Christ may rest upon me.” I hope this helps.

        “May the very God of peace sanctify you wholly; and I pray God your whole spirit and soul and body be preserved blameless unto the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. Faithful is he that calls you, who will also do it.” Did you catch that? HE WILL DO IT!

        God bless,

  2. Wow!!!! We were just talking about this tonight. Jesus said that if you love Me then you will obey Me. That if you obey Me, then the Father and I will come and dwell with you. Then the temptation is greatly reduced. Obedience from love is to me so much better for the believer. Its like training children to become adults. That when obedience from love the relationship with them changes. Its less stressful and more fulfilling.

    1. That’s right Brian. God is after our hearts and isn’t satisfied with just outward obedience. Isn’t that what Jesus said to the Pharisees? “You clean the outside of the cup but inside you’re full of poison.” At some point we have to catch the heart of the Father.
      thanks Brian,

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