With the recent passing of country artist Mindy Mccready a term has made its way onto the news most probably haven’t heard. It’s what is known as “Love addiction.” Apparently “Love” addiction is what some say Mindy had. I for one think this is not a very good name because love, as defined by the Bible, doesn’t cause this type of torment.
Since my own battles with addiction in the past I am always intrigued with television shows like A & E’s “Intervention” and other rehab shows. I find myself rooting for them, and it is so exciting when some do find freedom. Of course we know not all win the fight like Mindy and my prayers go out to her family. I know God will bring good, even out of this tragic situation, if we only have eyes to see.
I have a limited understanding of what they are calling love addiction but I believe it is really just another name for what used to be known as co-dependency. This of course like all addiction really stems from not knowing Christ and the sacrifice he has made in order to set us free from sin. After all what we’re calling addiction is really what the Bible calls sin and freedom from sin is only found in Jesus Christ.
If you want to see what the Bible tells us about love you can look in 1 John 4:8 and read, “The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” God is love and I’m here to tell you God isn’t into sending you to rehab. Now, don’t get me wrong it may take rehab, jail, the hospital, funeral home or any other number of traumatic experiences to shake us awake enough to start looking for him. The truth is God’s into whatever it takes for us to see our need for him.
Now that we’ve established God is love let’s look at 1 Corinthians 13 where we discover some characteristics of love. “Love is patient, love is kind and is not jealous; love does not brag and is not arrogant, does not act unbecomingly; it does not seek its own, is not provoked, does not take into account a wrong suffered, does not rejoice in unrighteousness, but rejoices with the truth; bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails…” This is what love looks like. Love always puts others before itself. On the other hand if we’re talking about lust, envy, jealousy etc. that’s another story. Those things will surely lead to rehab and jail if they are followed through on.
These women being diagnosed with “love” addiction didn’t come to the place they are because of love. These types of mental instabilities most certainly didn’t arise because there was a man in their life that was always thinking of them first and not bringing up wrongs. It wasn’t someone’s patience, unselfishness and hope that caused their problems. Rather it was the enemy’s counterfeit of love that did that. It was him whispering in their ear that no one loved them or cared about them. It’s his constant barrage of condemnation, guilt and hopelessness that causes this type of tragedy. Always looking for a man to fulfill what only Christ can is what’s really going on here.
In Jesus Christ the condemnation stops. In Jesus Christ hope is found. In Jesus Christ real love has been displayed. “Greater love has no one than this, that one lay down his life for his friends.” That is exactly what Christ has done for each of us. He also said, “The thief comes only to steal and kill and destroy; I came that they may have life, and have it abundantly.” Jesus came to give us life not death. Being addicted to Jesus is the only answer we’ve got to solve the greatest challenges in life.