Coming to grips with the fact that one is not an independent being is difficult at first–especially for men. Men are taught from an early age to be your own man! Of course what being a man usually means in this context is something like “suck it up! Men don’t cry and you have to learn how to deal with it” whatever “it” is, right? I mean a man isn’t supposed to cry you know. The old adage is men never look for directions or ask for help. This of course is because you don’t want to look like you don’t know where you’re going or what you’re doing. That wouldn’t be very manly now would it? The independent man—My Hero!
Women, on the other hand, seem a little quicker to reach out for assistance. They don’t have the same pressure placed on them to take care of things. In fact they may grow up expecting a man to take care of them. Therefore they tend to come to grips with their need sooner. Hence the reason churches are usually full of women rather than men. I’m speaking in generalizations of course.
Speaking of men and women and their differences has been going on for ages but when it comes to the Bible there is something we need to know. God is Spirit, and we humans, who are also spirit, have to be joined to another. God made us to be joined in union with another and we simply can’t go it alone.
While most either don’t know this or maybe just don’t agree; I for one believe our human spirits are always in union with another spirit. In Ephesians 2 we read as a lost person we were joined to “the prince of the power of the air, the spirit that now works in the children of disobedience…” Whoa! We used to have the spirit of the prince of the power of the air joined to us. I looked into the meaning of the words prince, power and air in this verse and came away with this. When Adam ate of the forbidden fruit he took in the air (breath) of this world. In other words he took in the spirit of the prince of this world, and I don’t think I have to spell out who that is. Once Adam joined himself, even if it was somewhat unknowingly, to Satan he became separated from God. This is what it meant when God told him “the day you eat of it you will surely die.” Death means separation from God. The problem is we humans may have been separated from God but we were then joined to another because we cannot operate independently.
So being born again really means “born from above” and that means the life, or Spirit of God, regains his proper place in us. The Bible says, “He that is joined to the Lord is one spirit.” This of course is the real union God is after and the marriage union is the picture. Paul wrote about this in Ephesians 5 “For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined to his wife, and they two shall be one flesh. This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.”
Now back to the beginning let me just say without a man a woman cannot become pregnant but without a woman a man cannot bear children. Isn’t it amazing how God does things? In the spirit it is rather similar but there is one big difference. In the spirit union God is the man, and all of us humans are the wife. I know the men readers don’t want to hear that but it’s true. Without God placing his seed, which is Christ, in us we will not bear fruit. Just as a woman cannot have children without a man we too cannot produce anything for God without his Spirit. In fact it is all by way of his Spirit. We just have to be the willing recipient. Jesus said “Herein is my Father glorified, that you bear much fruit…” “Apart from me you can do nothing.” Fruit bearing is impossible if we continue to live in the lie of independence. My advice to you men is to pull over and ask for directions!
Written by Louie