There is a certain mind-set that is especially destructive, called the “Phantom Christian.” The Phantom Christian is that imaginary person that many of us are continually comparing ourselves to. He is the super-spiritual man who gets up every day at 4:00 A.M. so he can pray for four hours. Then he reads his Bible for four hours. He goes to work (at which he is tops in his field), where he effectively shares Christ with everyone in his office. He teaches several Bible studies, goes to church every time the doors are open, and serves on several committees. He is also a wonderful spiritual leader at home—a sterling example of a loving husband and father, who leads stimulating family devotions every day for his “Proverbs 31” wife and perfect children.
Of course no one could live up to such a standard. Even if some person had the ability, he would still need 100 hours in a day! Rationally, we all know that the Phantom Christian is ridiculous, but the problem is that he is never brought to our consciousness. He is a vague ghost that sits in the back of our minds, creating a sense of failure to measure up. That is the reason why many, many Christians live under continual guilt. For those who believe that the Phantom Christian is God’s standard for acceptance, God seems a million miles away, sitting in heaven with His arms folded in disapproval. They don’t bother offering prayers because they know He would never answer them.
Taken from “Classic Christianity” by Bob George
I pray that this helps you. When it comes to being what God wants us to be we tend to create this mysterious image in our minds that has absolutely nothing whatsoever to do with what God says about us. We read the Bible and say, “I know God loves me but…” My question is do we know God truly accepts us? In Christ we are accepted by God!
Ephesians 1:6 “To the praise of the glory of his grace, wherein he hath made us accepted in the beloved.”